If you were a fan of The Babysitters Club like I was, you might remember the board game that came along with it. (Fun fact: it’s now considered vintage!) One card in that game has always stuck with me. It asked:

“If you could be the prettiest, smartest, or most popular in your grade, which would you choose?”

Without hesitation, I told my mom, “Most popular.”

She asked me why, probably assuming I was being a people pleaser. But my answer surprised her. Honestly, it surprises me now, too, looking back as a 41-year-old.

I said, “If I’m the most popular, then I could ask the prettiest one for beauty tips. I could ask the smartest one questions and learn from them. I can learn from everyone else if I’m the most popular.”

Our childlike thinking sometimes holds deep truth…

No, popularity isn’t my goal today. But genuine friendships? Intentional networking for my business? That same spirit is still guiding me.

Here’s what I’ve learned: There is no possible way for me (or for you, with all due respect) to know everything we need to know to live life well or to build a thriving business. The sooner we admit that, the better. It’s humbling, but freeing. And let’s be honest, there are people out there who are better than us at most things. That’s not a threat; it’s an invitation.

Why not let them do the things they love and excel at, especially if it helps your business?

Some people genuinely enjoy the things that drain us. That’s the magic of collaboration. My business wouldn’t exist without the people who’ve shared ideas, offered advice, lent their skills, or reminded me that I’m not in this alone. Truthfully? There’s very little I’m naturally good at when it comes to business and everything I have to do with it. What I have built has been shaped and strengthened by others.

That’s the beauty of building meaningful relationships both personal and professional. You get to learn. You get to grow. Eventually, you get to give back.

If I could go back to that 5th grade version of myself, I’d add this:

“Then, when I learn from people, I can help others because of what I’ve learned.”

It’s not about being the most popular. It’s about being open. It’s about being connected. It’s about paying it forward.